I think one of the best things you can do is to be a stay at home parent. I know this isn't possible for everyone, but I think it should be. It angers me that it is so hard to make a decent living while staying at home with your kids. You need to fill out surveys for $.40 cents a piece and then get a million ads in your inbox. Or you need to invest all kinds of money and have it maybe not work out.
Society knows it's a great thing to be able to stay home with your children, yet it's almost impossible. I sell Avon. I have been doing this for almost a year, and maybe I'm doing it wrong, but the money just isn't there. I heard all these testimonials about how women made 1 million dollars selling Avon, and I'm thinking, "where do you live?" I'm no idiot, and I just can't seem to catch a break. I have searched all over the web for good paying jobs I can do while staying home to take care of my family and I haven't found anything without a catch.
I guess this blog is more a rant then anything. I know if I was writing blogs about celebrities not wearing underwear, I would be on t.v, in magazines and being interviewed by Oprah. So what's up, has taking care of your family really taken a backseat to whether or not Brittany Spears will get custody of her kids?? Who cares?
I guess America does.
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Monday, September 10, 2007
Friday, July 20, 2007
At Wit's End?
This blog is courtesy of a magazine called Parent and Child. This article was in there and I wanted to share it with other moms and parents in general.
Forget yelling and nagging, focus on positive discipline to bring out the best in your kids and create a more harmonious household.
A Better Way: Positive Discipline, based on love and limits, is common sense. It's often the simple, sensible choices we tend to overlook as options, especially when we're in the heat of a kid battle. Unlike punishment, positive discipline works to maintain the dignity of both child and parent by helping the child want to cooperate because he knows it's the right thing to do, not because he feels he has to comply "or else" It has 3 main objectives:
1. Acknowledge strong feelings: A child who feels understood sees you as on his side rather then on his back and is more likely to cooperate.
2.Talk less: Say what needs to be done in a single word if you can. Children hate long explanations, which often turn into a screaming tirade of reasons it must be done. You're also modeling self control.
3. Tell your child what he can do, rather then what he cannot do: i.e. "we pet the cat" works better then "Don't pull the cat's tail like you did last time"
4. Give limited choices: Say to your child " you can get in your car seat all by yourself, or mommy can help you, do you need my help? It's your choice" ( but they have to get into their car seat) The more you do this, the more you'll get "self" cooperation
5. Lighten up: Make inanimate objects do the talking for you. Have your child shoes ask him to put them on.
6. Rewind!: This announcement means that your child will "take back" her words and actions and start anew with good behaviour. Silly babble and walking backwards indicate the bad behaviour has been "erased."
7. Take a break: To calm a frustrated child, stop and breathe together. Sitting across from one another hold hands and inhale slowly and deeply three times.
8. Take a silly break: A sense of humor is very positive and often works well to stop misbehaviour. When things are out of control, consider declaring " We need to get silly!" Dance, sing, tell a joke, talk in a silly voice or a foreign language. The children will join right in, or at least stop long enough to watch the show.
In truth, changing your ways and your children's isn't easy. and it can be especially difficult yo hold it together on crazy mornings. But even if you find that what comes out of your mouth is not what you had practiced, don't worry. Your child will give you another chance-sooner than you think-to say it better.
Written by:Gail Reichlin
Forget yelling and nagging, focus on positive discipline to bring out the best in your kids and create a more harmonious household.
A Better Way: Positive Discipline, based on love and limits, is common sense. It's often the simple, sensible choices we tend to overlook as options, especially when we're in the heat of a kid battle. Unlike punishment, positive discipline works to maintain the dignity of both child and parent by helping the child want to cooperate because he knows it's the right thing to do, not because he feels he has to comply "or else" It has 3 main objectives:
- To put a stop to misbehavior
- To encourage good behaviors
- To strengthen the relationship between parent and child
1. Acknowledge strong feelings: A child who feels understood sees you as on his side rather then on his back and is more likely to cooperate.
2.Talk less: Say what needs to be done in a single word if you can. Children hate long explanations, which often turn into a screaming tirade of reasons it must be done. You're also modeling self control.
3. Tell your child what he can do, rather then what he cannot do: i.e. "we pet the cat" works better then "Don't pull the cat's tail like you did last time"
4. Give limited choices: Say to your child " you can get in your car seat all by yourself, or mommy can help you, do you need my help? It's your choice" ( but they have to get into their car seat) The more you do this, the more you'll get "self" cooperation
5. Lighten up: Make inanimate objects do the talking for you. Have your child shoes ask him to put them on.
6. Rewind!: This announcement means that your child will "take back" her words and actions and start anew with good behaviour. Silly babble and walking backwards indicate the bad behaviour has been "erased."
7. Take a break: To calm a frustrated child, stop and breathe together. Sitting across from one another hold hands and inhale slowly and deeply three times.
8. Take a silly break: A sense of humor is very positive and often works well to stop misbehaviour. When things are out of control, consider declaring " We need to get silly!" Dance, sing, tell a joke, talk in a silly voice or a foreign language. The children will join right in, or at least stop long enough to watch the show.
In truth, changing your ways and your children's isn't easy. and it can be especially difficult yo hold it together on crazy mornings. But even if you find that what comes out of your mouth is not what you had practiced, don't worry. Your child will give you another chance-sooner than you think-to say it better.
Written by:Gail Reichlin
Sunday, June 24, 2007
Kids say the darndest things
Being a mother of 2 and an older sister to a now 6 year old, I knew this day would come. My son who is almost three has become very very verbal. He began speaking fairly early and seems to absorb everything he hears so it's not surprising, that now his vocabulary is extensive.
Yesterday, we were in the grocery store and I was looking to buy ice cream ( not that it matters what I was doing) and my son i in the back of the cart waiting patiently with his daddy and sister. ( 9 months old) the aisle that we are in is packed with people and just as a couple walk by he shouts ( although I am very close to him) "Mommy, Mommy.....I FARTED!!!" The couple ( who obviously doesn't have kids) got a look on their faces that said they wanted to laugh but felt they shouldn't. What did I do? I said " thank you for sharing that with me....and everyone else honey" Then I did what anyone else would do, I laughed uncontrollably. I mean this is what kids do. There is no way I could get upset at that. We went to the Dr. for his sister the other day. Since they share the same Dr. the Dr. asked him for a hug, and he says no. She asks him again, and he walks up to me and says " mommy, i don't like her" Now, the Dr. isn't the one who gives him the shots, but needless to say, she wasn't getting a hug from him that day.
Right now, it's all fun and games, and I look forward to his little outbursts, so that on prom night I can embarrass him, by telling these stories to his date. We will see how I feel, when we are in a store and he shouts " mommy, she's fat!"
Yesterday, we were in the grocery store and I was looking to buy ice cream ( not that it matters what I was doing) and my son i in the back of the cart waiting patiently with his daddy and sister. ( 9 months old) the aisle that we are in is packed with people and just as a couple walk by he shouts ( although I am very close to him) "Mommy, Mommy.....I FARTED!!!" The couple ( who obviously doesn't have kids) got a look on their faces that said they wanted to laugh but felt they shouldn't. What did I do? I said " thank you for sharing that with me....and everyone else honey" Then I did what anyone else would do, I laughed uncontrollably. I mean this is what kids do. There is no way I could get upset at that. We went to the Dr. for his sister the other day. Since they share the same Dr. the Dr. asked him for a hug, and he says no. She asks him again, and he walks up to me and says " mommy, i don't like her" Now, the Dr. isn't the one who gives him the shots, but needless to say, she wasn't getting a hug from him that day.
Right now, it's all fun and games, and I look forward to his little outbursts, so that on prom night I can embarrass him, by telling these stories to his date. We will see how I feel, when we are in a store and he shouts " mommy, she's fat!"
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